You Can Act The Way You Want IF You Think The Way You Should

"Act your way into feeling, don’t feel your way into acting.” A well known quote that I have used in talks and tried to practice in my own life for quite some time. In fact, if truth be told, I was a wholehearted believer in the concept. Today, I’m different. I would reword the quote to something like this.

 

You Can Act The Way You Want IF You Think The Way You Should

 

Somewhere in my past I must have tossed my feelings and thinking out the door in favor of a purely rational, “do better, try harder” mindset. I would say something like this, ”Craig, keep doing and eventually you will start being.”

So, leaders, parents, and anyone who will listen. Stop “acting” your way into anything. Start thinking and believing better about

Why We Should Hug Our Kids Every Day (No Matter How Old They Are)

Why We Should Hug Our Kids Every Day (No Matter How Old They Are)

The Science

When our boys were born, our son Alec had to spend a few days in the NICU. During his stay, I found out something about the process of care for babies. The hospital had a volunteer program called “snugglers.” They are called snugglers because that is exactly what they do, snuggle. They spend hour upon hour picking up babies in the NICU, sitting down in a chair and holding them.

At the time, I thought the practice was a nice hospital amenity, but later I found out the research behind the power of touch in the NICU. “Benefits include stimulation of circulatory and gastrointestinal systems, better weight gain, lesser stress behavior, positive effects on neurological and neuromotor development . . . and improved sleep.” (See Footnote 1)

There is “A growing body of research has uncovered another dimension of touch that

Keep Going When You Feel Broken, Don’t Give Up!

Can we be clear right up front about three things?

  1. Brokenness is a new beginning not a final ending.
  2. Broken does not mean beaten.
  3. Your past mistakes don’t undermine your future potential.


Recall with me the first 400 meter semi-final heat of the 1992 Summer Olympics in Barcelona Spain. In fact, it’s the only moment I recall from those games and it was a defining moment.

It was such a defining moment I don’t even remember who won the race that day but I do remember one runner, Derek Redmond. Why do I remember him? Because he didn’t quit when

5 Great Parenting Reminders

5 Great Parenting Reminders

Don't cry over spilled milk! Great advice, usually from parents and when it's not your milk! Accidents happen, and, when they happen again, it's frustrating. I don't know about you but I have let my frustration get the best of my parenting from time to time.

Have you ever been mad at your five-year-old for spilling his or her third glass of milk at dinner or finger painting on the refrigerator with butter or trying to play a peanut-butter-and-jelly sandwich in

Top 5 John Wooden Quotes Leaders Need To Know

Top 5 John Wooden Quotes Leaders Need To Know

The NCAA final Four Tournament ends this evening. There will be a winner and a looser. Although, arguably one of the greatest basketball coaches of all time, if not THE greatest coach of all time would say the looser didn’t really loose, they just ran out of time!

John Wooden was an incredible leader with penetrating and poignant wisdom which he often expressed with a quip or quote. They weren't just “good quotes” they were nuggets of memorable and transferable wisdom for us today.

His quotes weren't just for coaches or athletes either. They were for leaders, parents, students and whoever else would listen because they applied to all of life, not just basketball.

With that in mind here are my top 5

How To Create Space For A Healthy Family Pace

How To Create Space For A Healthy Family Pace

The picture above doesn't look like much, in fact, it doesn't look like anything at all! Garbled, unreadable, cluttered, stressful it just doesn't make sense. So, why the picture?

The picture is significant because it's this entire post without any space. Without space the message is unclear at best, unreadable at worst. Words on a page need space in order to make sense. We really don't notice when space is there, but when it isn't, we can all tell. Without space words loose their meaning. And...you can see where I am going with this...Without space, people loose their meaning too.

Without space our

The 5 Enabling Ways of Great Leaders

I don’t know how I have come to think of the word “Enable” as negative but somewhere along the line I have. Maybe I associate it with co-dependent behavior or maybe I hear it used in negative ways like, “You should stop enabling their unhealthy behavior.” But the fact is, the word “Enable” is key to growing healthy leaders.

If you look up the word enable in the dictionary you will get this definition. “To provide someone with power, means or opportunity. To make possible.”

The fact is great leaders “Enable” people to make a difference in and with their lives! Here are 5 enabling ways of great leaders